Meet France’s First Married Gay Couple

For a moment, the wedding on Wednesday felt like a dizzy blast of romance, as Nat King Cole’s classic song “Love Was Made for Me and You” blared out of the speakers, and an ecstatic couple made their way down the aisle. The couple were both men

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For a moment, the wedding on Wednesday felt like the most traditional of occasions, as Nat King Cole’s classic song “Love Was Made for Me and You” blared out of the speakers, and an ecstatic couple made their way down the aisle. But there was one difference: the couple were both men.

France’s first gay marriage, officiated in the town hall of Montpellier in front of hundreds of people, was as much the culmination of a bitter political battle as the fruits of a great love. That much was clear as Vincent Autin and Bruno Boileau sat listening hand in hand to the speech of Montpellier Mayor Hélène Mandroux, who stood before a portrait of President François Hollande and told them, moments before they took their vows, “Our society cannot have any prejudices.” In a hall jammed with politicians, photographers and television crews, Mandroux called the wedding, broadcast live on French networks, “a symbol for France,” and said “the very fact that marriage has been opened to everybody has triggered a wave of hatred and dissent.”

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That is an understatement. For months Paris streets have been racked with violent clashes that have drawn enraged crowds onto the streets to protest against a central policy of Hollande’s Socialist Party, which vowed in its election campaign a year ago to legalize gay marriage. At times the demonstrations have been equal in size and ferocity to the riots during the mid-2000s over pension and labor reforms. Even after the French Senate passed the bill legalizing gay marriage two weeks ago, the protests did not let up. On Monday, hundreds of thousands of people poured onto the esplanade in front of the city’s Invalides dome, clashing with riot police, who were posted around Paris neighborhoods in bulletproof vests and helmets, as they have been numerous times during the past several months.

Vincent Autin, left, and Bruno Boileau, arrive at Montpelier City Hall, for their civil wedding, Wednesday May 29, 2013.

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Vincent Autin, left, and Bruno Boileau arrive at Montpelier City Hall for their civil wedding on May 29, 2013

As Autin and Boileau were taking their vows on Wednesday, Bruno Vercken, a member of the political board of the right-wing Christian Democratic Party, was telling France 24 Television that the battle was not over, despite the hard-won rights of gay couples. The issue, he says, would continue to focus on stopping gay couples from procreating. “People will not stop protesting,” Vercken said. “Our main concern is the defense of children.”

During months of fierce debates on the floor of France’s National Assembly and on the streets, the schism among French voters has exploded around the issue of nuclear families, rather than around homosexuality itself. While the law now allows gay couples to adopt children, it stops short of permitting them to have biological children through assisted reproduction — an issue that in general remains highly contentious, even for heterosexual couples, in this largely Catholic country. Commercial egg donation, for example, remains illegal. “We need a father and a mother,” Vercken said on television, echoing the major argument that has been pushed for months by gay-marriage protesters. “We all agree that a human being is born from a man and a woman.”

The intensity of gay-marriage protests has surprised many, perhaps because France has a fairly progressive attitude toward marriage and relationships. Domestic partnerships are widespread, and it is relatively common to meet long-term nuclear families with unmarried parents. Hollande himself never married his former partner Ségolène Royal, with whom he had four children, and is not married to his current love, Valérie Trierweiler, who is officially known as France’s First Lady. And Bertrand Delanoë, who has been mayor of Paris since 2001, is openly gay, a fact that is accepted by most Parisians without question.

Vincent Autin (L) and his partner Bruno Boileau (R) sign a document during their marriage in Montpellier, southern France on May 29, 2013.

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Vincent Autin, left, and his partner Bruno Boileau sign a document during their marriage in Montpellier, southern France, on May 29, 2013

For Hollande, his success in making gay marriage legal has been politically crucial. It is arguably the most significant legal shift in French society since the abolition of the death penalty in 1981. In addition, it is about the only definable victory Hollande can claim from his first year in office, during which his poll ratings have sunk to below 25%.

But the bitter fractiousness over gay parenting shows little signs of easing. “The outlook of French public opinion has evolved a lot,” Jérôme Fourquet, director of opinion at the French polling agency Ifop, told TIME on Wednesday. The organization, which has surveyed thousands of French citizens on gay marriage during the past months, found that voters increasingly grew accustomed to the idea as the months of political debate wore on; today, about two-thirds of those polled said they were in favor of gay marriage.

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The opposition to gay parenting remains strong, however. Latest polls taken last week found between 45% and 50% oppose adoption for gay parents, and the figures tend to skew higher when assisted reproduction is discussed. But the greatest division is generational. In a recent Ifop poll, two-thirds of those identifying themselves as grandparents opposed gay parenting, a sharp difference from younger French voters. That suggests that as years go on the opposition to allowing gay couples to have children will shrink. “The great majority of youth are in favor of gay parents,” Fourquet said. “The older generation is much more attached to the traditional model of the family.” Legal or not, France’s first married gay couple made clear their intentions yesterday. “We hope to have a family at some point, that is for sure,” Boileau told reporters before the wedding. “That is something that will come next.”

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Sibir_Russia
Sibir_Russia

The U.S. Senate allowed the American military sex with animals.

http://imgur.com/GqLWRYj,VEocYFL

"United States Senate approved a bill containing the provision abolishing in the army punishment for sodomy and bestiality"

samacq
samacq

It would appear that the so called gays here are the most angry, as well as living hundreds of years in the past.

AaronKhan
AaronKhan

I can bet that all these protesters, who champion themselves on thinking about the children first, have NEVER donated their time and money to the millions of children who are actually suffering in abusive homes, orphanages, corrupt foster centers, and city streets. All this suffering caused by careless heterosexual mothers and fathers, I may add. 

If it is true that homosexuals only make up 5-10% of the population, then it is true that a smaller percentage will choose to become parents. This percentage will only adopt an even smaller percentage of the children who need parents. How is it that this minuscule percentage of children who will actually have gay parents affect the 90-95% of straight people is PROFOUND to me. Also, what about the millions of children in single parent homes? According to these protesters' logic, these kids living in one parents are also suffering and will "destroy" the foundations of the traditional one man + one woman family.

HAVING A MOTHER AND FATHER IS NOT SOME MAGICAL RECIPE FOR A SUCCESSFUL CHILD. QUALITY of parenting should always be valued first, not the gender of the parents. Being heterosexual doesn't automatically make you a fit parent. A family is a family. Because of the thousands of dollars and hours gay people have to endure to have children, they'll always be parents who actually WANT children and not those who have them by accident in which happens in the straight population often. Population wise, there is nothing gay parents can do to negatively effect children anymore than the straight parents who have done so much damage to the millions of abused and orphaned children already.

Sibir_Russia
Sibir_Russia

Barack Hussein Obama declared the protection of the rights of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people a priority(!) of Foreign Policy of the USA

US President Obama publicly endorsed same-sex marriages: "At a certain point, I've just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same-sex couples should be able to get married,” Obama told ABC News on May 9.

 Pope Benedict XVI: Same-sex marriage undermine «the future of mankind»

Pope Benedict XVI expressed his protest against same-sex unions, calling them manipulation of the God-given identity, reported in the Vatican. «The provision of gay rights marry and adopt children undermines the foundations of traditional family consisting of mother, father and children,» said the Pontiff at the traditional Christmas address to the Ministers of the Vatican. http://imgur.com/WlpjxQK

 

Sibir_Russia
Sibir_Russia

The head of the Anglican Episcopal Church of the United States, the 52-year-old Katharine Jefferts Schori, who became the first woman to head this Church called homosexuality is God's Gift. According to her, some of the rules in the Bible are already out of date.  http://imgur.com/MvjL5sx

on June 5, 2011 turned 30 years from the day that the United States was the first case of the disease of homosexuals with AIDS. Since then, the disease has claimed the lives of about 30 million people. Approximately the same number is a carrier of the infection.

AeslyMartineau
AeslyMartineau

Congratulations! This is a big step for the world. Literally. It's nice to see religious people realize they don't own people. Not anymore.

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

To all the bigots and so-called-Christians. Please feel free to enter all the ignorant garbage spewing you like. It must be horrible to have that as your only means of release. The world is moving forward and all you can do is gripe and grumble. Call gays perverts. Go into detail about us having sees, then tell everyone how "repulsed" you are. Complain about the parade and how you have to wait a year and drive into town so you can stand on the curb with 100,000 other people to have it "thrown in your face" and "shoved down your throat.".

By all means, keep on doing what your doing, and when you wonder why WE are winning the culture war

paulgeorges
paulgeorges

Hey you, but tell me why you don't have like me two dads, or two moms?You're not  cool at all, you're not in the standards ,no more in the standards !

DanielPolar
DanielPolar

Sorry this is wrong. 3% to 5% of the population is gay. How is it that the 95% of us who are not have to have this shoved down our throats is incredible.

There are so many more important things that Homosexuality shouldn't even be spoke of or considered.

NicholasCalabrese
NicholasCalabrese

Who cares?There are so many more important things to worry about than gays getting married.

itsjustjake
itsjustjake

There is nothing wrong with us. We are good people who want to take part in society. I cannot understand the severity of this backlash.

HikaruSulu
HikaruSulu

When the people protest against it and ranks of policemen are need to carry it out, it is terrany against the people. What good king or leader would continue with an agenda when the people have had such huge demonstrations against it. A good king of leader cares about the happiness of the many not his few friends.

WaneSmith
WaneSmith

They look like porn stars, who are proud of their movie.

GaurangaPérezRivas
GaurangaPérezRivas

Guys, in case you were too busy lecturing everyone about what is right and what isn't, don't forget those two are humans. They have feelings and can certainly feel that thing called LOVE. Now, they may not follow our system of beliefs, but that does not mean that we are right nor that they are wrong or that we are, in some childish way of thinking, superior or more deserving than them. Everyone has the right to love whoever they want in whichever way they feel like. I'm a straight respectful atheist who welcomes a France that treats its citizens more equally.     

GaySpecking
GaySpecking

Intetesting that French gays embrace marriage when straight French avoid it. Who has the old fashioned values here?

lazarus00000
lazarus00000

Viva LA France! The french just redeemed theselves to me. Thank heavens we can all eat frenchfries again. Wow, what a good looking couple! The idea of persecuting people based on ancient hatred and superstition  in the modern age needs to just go away.

Read the Thomas Paine, "Age of Wisdom" to see and understand why we as Americans chose to prevent religion from influnecing our laws and freedoms. But the religious fanatic thinks the Boy Scout term of "Morally Straight" has something to do with Homosexaulity.

There is a vast difference between Religion and God. Religion is a man made invention used to dominate societies to their will. That is why religions are always fighting with each other for the distinction of being supreme.

The belief in god is apersoan thing that a person uses to regulate their own sense of Morals, good or bad.

Religion tries to rationalize the murder od sinners because "Their god" demands it. They say God is vengeful and to fear him, but when it comes down to the point of death, it is humans who are to be feared. Do you know waht blood lust is?

The religious fanatics do and did in the 1500 years that christians willfully murdered all sinners, and non beleivers. But Murder was not enough. Read some books on the Inquisitions and Crusades where people were tortured  in the most horrific ways in order to save their souls before they were burned at the stakes.

Tiny Tim said, "God Bless us Every one", But I say, "God save us from the true believers."

Lazarus

ThorgoodSmith
ThorgoodSmith

Disgusting!

Behaviorally, homosexuality creates a high level of social turmoil beginning with public bathrooms, showers, dorm rooms and military barracks.  Previously separated by gender to preserve personal privacy and eliminate sexual attraction, they now become a state of chaos when it's not just opposites that attract.  Moreover, consider the objections of couple subject to a “pat down” by a gay policeman, who violates their sexual privacy under the guise of the “law of non-discrimination”.  Sexual privacy needs are afforded when an individual has adequate physical and visual separation from anyone attracted to their sex.  By definition, homosexuals deny society of its sexual privacy.

As it affects health, homosexuals experience greater depression resulting from rejection by a majority of the population who oppose homosexually, amplified when impressionable children are exposed to a lifestyle parents abhor, and who recognize how it terminates their family legacies.

On a biological level, homosexuality is dysfunctional, ignores that life is sexually transmitted and everyone acknowledges it’s contrary to the sexual orientation of their straight parents.  Also, it introduces human waste into the reproduction system which is reprehensible.  It raises the risk of acquiring AIDS/HIV,  increases health care costs and shortens life spans.  Who buys a new car and throws it overboard as a boat anchor, destroying its intended purpose.

Theologically, homosexuality is contrary to the Bible resulting in the gay community embracing  atheism as it conflicts with their hedonistic lifestyle.  Scriptural condemnation begins in Genesis with the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah and continues through Revelation.  However, consider His grace reflected in I Corinthians 6::9 “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! The sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, passive homosexual partners, practicing homosexuals,10 thieves, the greedy, drunkards, the verbally abusive, and swindlers will not inherit the kingdom of God. 11 Some of you once lived this way. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”  Rejecting His grace, we just become another Godless nation.

More compelling verses:
Leviticus 18:22
“Do not practice homosexuality; it is a detestable sin.”

And for raising children: Luke 17:2
“It would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around his neck than for him to cause one of these little ones to sin.”

DoubleDucks
DoubleDucks

NWO (2021): The latest threat to human existence is no longer global warming. It is overpopulation. It will bring mass starvation, pandemics, and world war. This misery must be avoided. The NWO therefore decrees that heterosexual relationships are to be banned. Any dissent from this decree is to be called hate speech, punishable by 2 years in an enlightenment camp. Only gay marriages are to be allowed, and may be between any number of people as long as they cannot procreate.

Sibir_Russia
Sibir_Russia

The spiritual management of Muslims of Crimea: «Same-sex relations are forbidden in Islam. Any relationship that lead to sexual relations of a man with a man or woman and woman is sin. Islam considers same-sex relations are not only as one of the major sins, but also something that's contrary to human nature, as a disease of the human soul. Such people in need of treatment, but not in the promotion of»

http://imgur.com/XHdYADZ

 

lazarus00000
lazarus00000

Freud must have been right. I have noticed that all of the angry heterosexaul post continue to use the phrase , "Shove down my throat".  Linda Lovelace would be so proud.

lazarus

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

You'll have it shoved down your throat and you'll like it! Further, you'll keep coming back for more.

"It shouldn't be spoken of our considered." And yet, here you are... Considering it, and adding to the conversation.

People like you always make us laugh. You go out of your way to talk about how you can't stand people talking about gay people. Well, set an example and shut up. Or don't. We don't care. But just so you know,

righteousman
righteousman

@DanielPolar What type of egocentric delusions you had to foster in your little brain in order to produce these nonsensical statements? Nothing was ever shoved down your throat beside a spoonful of hate and ignorance. You are not forced to look or interact with a gay marriage, and no gay wedding will ever effect your life in any way, shape, or form. 

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

Who cares? Obviously, that would be you, since you took the time to stop, reflect on the article, and enter a comment on the internet for the world to see.

HikaruSulu
HikaruSulu

How is disrespect the beliefs of millions of French equality. Those MILLIONS of people you so glibly disrespect are human also.

HikaruSulu
HikaruSulu

French gays dance on the grave of old fashion values. Try again.

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

>>>Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawn<<<

Another bible thumper. Let us know when you have actually read the bible. Cutting and pasting from the net doesn't impress anyone.

Also, of you could try living by that book yourself, that would be great.

lazarus00000
lazarus00000

Oh Thorgood,

Are you still throwing those cherry picked verses of Hate from the OT around? Abraham would be so proud of you as would the  witchburners of history.

I am trulty very tired of the selfrigheous haters freely selecting a few verses from the Bible and expect that freedom loving people will fear your God. I say do not fear God, fear those who would torture and kill in the name of God. Would you like for me to post all of the other Abominations from the OT and show everyone how retarded it is to pick from the list?

Jesus asked me to deliver a message to you. He said, "Stop using the mane of my father and my name to justify the brutality of other humans. My father's house has many rooms...".

You and all of the bible thumpers need to enroll in a few good college level history classes and concentrate of the Early Christians, because after Rome was through twisting the name of god around, and the story of Jesus, Christains lost their true identity.

You should take your opinions of what Dispicable sins and step back into the closet somewhere in the dark ages.

 My definition of despicable sin would include Brutal Homophobic religious fanatics using their every breath to beat down people that have not ever harmed anyone.

I would also include people like Sandusky who is the product of the Brutal Homophobic religious fanatic culture that forced him to choose to be a Heteroseual insted of allowing himself to follow his natural desires. I can list, right here, right now 15 names of Ultra Conservative lawmakers and preachers who have recently been in the news for crimes against Boys, soliciting male prostitutes, and abusing their powers in sexaully molesting their male employees. The list is easy to find on the interenet. These people had previously used their positionsof power to influence people like you, create laws to attack their own persoanal desires, and to influence public opinion. The list is very interesting. You probably know all of them.

Respectfully,

Lazarus

lazarus00000
lazarus00000

When the Pope wanted to continue to torture and kill accused witches after the first 2 hundred years of the 4 hundred years of terror, many of the royal families of Europe wanted the Church to stop. The Pope tried to raise an Army large enough to enforce his will on the royals, but the Rhelm was too divided.

He finally won though because he always hada "Trump" card to play when all else failed in the superstitious times. He threatened to Excommunicate everyone who would not comply. The threat of taking ones immortal soul away was enough to insure that the killing would continue in the inquisitions. At the end of the 400 years, the world began to be totally Appaled at the horrific way religion tortured humanity and decided it was better to burn in hell than to burn here on earth wirh the fires of religion. The result was the age of enlightenment where liberty began to grow and the pope felt compelled to hide in the vatican as well as the 3 popes after him. Four generations of Popes hid from mankind because they expected the same level of compassion that they showed mankind.

Do not fear god, fear the people who would kill and torture in God's name.

Lazarus

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

Don't worry about it. MY soul is none of YOUR concern.

Go try and help the souls of the pedophile priests in the church. OR the heterosexuals who are cheating on their spouses. OR the pregnant teenagers. OR the chick in China who flushed her baby down the toilet.

Even better, concentrate on your own.

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

There's a LOT more coming down the line before the year is out.

NicholasCalabrese
NicholasCalabrese

Dear angry q,actually didn't even read the article,just went straight to comments for I could care less about your sexuality as you should care less about mine and if you look further down in the comments section you will find my second comment to thoroggood,let he who is without sin cast the first stone.Stay angry AQ.

amytalk
amytalk

@HikaruSulu If you don't like secular values then move to a non-secular country. I hear the middle east is quite inviting to bronze age myths. 

HikaruSulu
HikaruSulu

You've really put a lot of thought into this. Do you have a wall covered with papers, push pins and yarn connecting all the patterns?

hch142
hch142

@lazarus00000 Interesting that Sandusky and his natural desires, which I seem to recall are pedophilia, would be considered supportive of the idea of same gender marriage.

AngryQueers
AngryQueers

That would also be none of your concern. Have we meet? No. Have we been to your home? Have you been to ours? No. Do you live a flawless life which nobody could disagree with? Not likely. Soooo....

Mind your own business. Work on your own life/soul/family. If you're so concerned with the evil in the world which you say we are benching a part of, maybe you could do something about all the heterosexual rape, or close the "gentleman's clubs" with the 50' marquee reading "LIVE NUDE GIRLS." Know what would be just peachy..? If you could get a law passed limiting divorce to the biblical guidelines. Spousal abuse is a HUGE problem. Could you, kindly, take care of that?

"You people" are really bringing this great nation down with your evil behavior.

LstandsforL
LstandsforL

@AngryQueers As a very UN-bigoted heterosexual, and one of those filthy, vile, atheists, just wanted to say that not all of us (heteros) are raging hate-mongers. I understand your anger, believe me, but please know that there are far more like US out there than you could possibly imagine, and we love you, exactly the way you are!

AeslyMartineau
AeslyMartineau

@HikaruSulu Who said gay people aren't religious or christian too? Santa Claus will very likely come to gay households as well. Get real.

HikaruSulu
HikaruSulu

I like Christian America, where Santa Claus is king.

lazarus00000
lazarus00000

Have you any experience with Abnormal psychology? When  a child is placed in a sealed environment as with the known cases where an adolesent child is discovered that has been locked in acloset all of its life with no human contact, do you know the result? I do  because I have seen it as a social worker. The result is a child that is unable to function, or even speak more than a few gestures and grunts.

My point is that society and culture can remove the nature from a person and replace it with some artificial standard that is socially acceptable as a survival mechanism.

Galileo was forced to deny his scientific evidence  in order to not be tortured and burned at the stake. Hi schoice was to live a lie than to die a horendious death.

Sandusky might have turned out to become a flaming queen were it not for HIS CHOICE to hide as a Heterosexual. By denying his natural inclinations, he evolved into a pedophile. a predator that used his power and the dark hiding places that All Pedophiles use. He was not a homosexaul, but he probably would have been were it not for the social stigma and negative sterotypes.

Lazarus