Indian Court: Depriving a Wife of Sex Is ‘Cruelty’

Saying you're tired just isn't good enough, fellas

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Indian brides look on ahead of a mass wedding in Kolkata on February 14, 2012.

A court in India has decreed that depriving your wife of sex is “cruel.”

The Times of India reports that a woman in Mumbai petitioned for divorce because her husband had refused to have sex with her over the course of their two-year marriage. She alleged the troubles began from day one, when she found her in-laws occupying the bedroom reserved for her wedding night. From that evening forward she claims her husband offered a string of excuses, from stress to unemployment.

“No party has the right to deprive the other from marital bliss without any justifiable reason,” the court ruled, adding that such conduct “amounts to cruelty.” The husband was also ordered to pay 300,000 rupees ($4,849) as a one-off alimony.

[TOI]

13 comments
desiperdesy
desiperdesy

I feel sorry for the bride. But this is wicked since her husband is actually smart in his own way. Indian court actually fall into his scheme. It is clear from this report that he had problem with this marriage. If he would have filed for divorce, he would have to wait for 7 years reconciliation phase as defined in Indian laws (for Hindus) and at the end of some years later when court grants divorce he would be paying living costs to his ex-wife for life. He got much quicker and cheaper verdict this way. On the contrary,this has opened up a flood gate for those indian men who are either sex deprived by wives as well as those who would want to get rid of their wives with lesser economic and social consequences. This is becoming more common in more educated and urbanized indians. Be prepared for more stories.

SoundaraRajan
SoundaraRajan

This is natural justice as mentioned by vaishnavijagdp. But sex is not something like taking out your wallet and giving whenever demanded. Some women habitually nag and abuse the husbands during whole day driving him crazy and depressed and expect at night that he should be ready for sex as if Husband is like an electric utility that it should be able function as soon as the switch is on. To enjoy sex some amount of happiness should be there between a man and woman as a precursor. So this ruling is meaningless. If a man or woman is happy at home it would happen spontaneously. If one starts ill treating the other either physically and emotionally, wounding ones respect, then sex is a rare occasion between a husband and wife.

Openminded1
Openminded1

Maybe the guy is just gay .Or Did anyone see her picture? maybe she is so ugly he can not stand the thought.

vaishnavjagdip
vaishnavjagdip

This is natural justice.

Husband can not deny any legitimate, fair demand of wife , otherwise it amounts to injustice, harassment , 

Marriage means , both partners have to enjoy , pass life with understanding ,share joy & grief 

Nowhere1111
Nowhere1111

2 YEARS?? It took a newly wed THAT long to figure out her new husband AND his family were stark raving wacko?? WOW!

Whoa
Whoa

@desiperdesy


Got away with just a ($4,849) one-off alimony - sounds like a real slick move by the "husband" indeed !

TimRobinsonAus
TimRobinsonAus

She shouldn't be so ungrateful - she's in India.... I'm sure she'll get pack raped anyway.... Isn't that the Indian man's way???

MichaelGooch
MichaelGooch

@SoundaraRajan what you say is true, but 2 years is pushing it, and assuming what she said was true, her husband began the neglect on her wedding day.

baldwin.johnm
baldwin.johnm

@Openminded1 I once heard a phrase in a movie something like "A mule is as beautiful as a purebread horse in the dark." So, sexually...it still doesn't make sense.

TimRobinsonAus
TimRobinsonAus

And being in India she will easily get pack raped by lunch time... It's the Indian males way

NandaKishoreN
NandaKishoreN

@Nowhere1111 We don't actually know the background of the girl.  Firstly her coming out of the closet and declaring that her husband isn't having sex with her must have been the battle of life for her over all the social stigma.  

People are quick to point out a woman that there must be something wrong with the girl.  .In the meanwhile in-laws and their associates might have already started accusing that the girl is baron and can't have children.

The one-off alimony of Rs.300,000.00 suggests their family backgrounds in short.  Because court usually goes by the income and standard-of-living of the man while fixing the amount.  As a one-off alimony that's a bare minimum amount, which is evident that both the families are either lower Middle-Class or even Poorer-Class.

In any case the reactions and retaliations always depend on the Financial and Educational Background of the girl.  Lack of financial independence means a lot for a girl from such backgrounds.

In such cases a girl's parents on the contrary usually prefer silence because it could be a family shame and financial compulsions.

An educated self-made girl from cities like Delhi, Mumbai, Bangalore, Hyderabad is an entirely different case. Here people as if live in a different galaxy in such matters and that too if they're from Upper Middle-Class and High-Class families.  If they've got a bit of legal support and power at their disposal they can rule.  There are even chances of manipulation.  Over all things don't go by rules and norms in a corrupt and desperate society.

In short MONEY and POWER rules.